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Questions to ponder: What is all this fuss about Commitment?   We change, they change, the world changes, how could you ever really commit to anything? Why would you commit? And as we are all independent and self-sufficient, we really don't need anyone else, or do we? And where does committed marriage fit in all this? Lastly, what the heck does this have to do with anything important, like Life and GOD?

I guess I was lucky, as I knew from the first few days that I loved my future wife Betty and wanted to marry her and Commit my life to her. Unfortunately, I was only 17… and no one believed that I had any idea what ‘true’ love was; that included my future wife Betty. I was 22 by time everyone, including Betty, realized that I really did love her and wanted to marry and Commit myself to her for the rest of our lives. I am telling you this because I had no problem Committing to Betty. That means that I do not understand why everyone runs from Commitment today. Yeah, I get it that going around having sex with anyone and everyone has its appeal, but as an old guy that has been around for quite a while, I’ll tell you straight; Sex without true and Committed love is a short-lived pleasure. You probably already know that..

Love is scary… Marriage is scary… Commitment is scary. I actually had to work at my marriage, and strangely, while I loved my wife Betty with all my heart as she loved me, Betty did not always agree with what I wanted. Come to think of it, I did not always agree with what Betty wanted. So while we loved each other without limits, we had to be willing (and we were) to sometimes sacrifice our personal desires and wants for what the other wanted. It wasn’t long before I learned that the joy I received from seeing Betty happy was greater than what I would have received if I had gotten my own way. I suppose that is what true love is all about… you are more concerned with your loved one than you are with yourself.

Just as in Jesus’ Second Great Commandment: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself,” and “that ye love one another, as I have loved you.” Would I have sacrificed what I wanted if I was not Committed to staying married and in a relationship with Betty? Hmm, probably not: I would probably gone and found “a brand new girlfriend” as in that popular song. I suppose I need to ask myself if I still truly love that person or even GOD…. because if I truly love someone, a spouse or a child or even GOD, I enjoy helping them or sacrificing my wants for theirs, not because I have to, but because I love them…. I guess the bottom line is love, Commitment and sacrifice.

So what, it works for me, but it doesn't work for you. Maybe, maybe not. What really is Commitment? Is it saying that you have made a CHOICE forever.... I don't think so. I think it means that for this moment you are CHOOSING to Commit to that other person forever.... but you will again have to recommit and CHOOSE that person again and again forever, as you change. OOPS, there is that word again, CHOOSE...

Have I lost you now? When Betty and I shared our vows, WE swore before GOD and all that WE believed that WE would always be married and as one. WE indirectly said that WE would CHOOSE to try through the good and bad, the health and sickness, and so on, to travel GOD's path as one. But the very next morning, WE again had to CHOOSE to stay as Man and Wife, and WE made that CHOICE again and again everyday of the over 40 years of our marriage until Betty went home to GOD. Even today, WE still CHOOSE to love each other; though Betty as a blessed soul with GOD, and me as a sinner still here on earth. WE still have a Commitment to each other, because WE have made the CHOICE to Commit even though she is there and I am still here. Ok, so where am I going with this? 

Guess what? Commitment and CHOICE...If I couldn't Commit to someone I love here on earth, if I couldn't CHOOSE to try to love and sacrifice my desires to give them what they want, then how could I ever Commit and CHOOSE GOD. Oh wow, that means Committing and CHOOSING and loving another human being is really training for Committing and CHOOSING and loving GOD. Just as with those we CHOOSE and love here on earth where we have to CHOOSE again and again each day to Commit and love them, we have to CHOOSE again and again each day to Commit and love GOD. 

Long lecture, but here is the end point and almost finish (I hope I complete the pass or make the basket or goal!). Each minute, each hour, each day, I CHOOSE GOD as most important to me in this life and Eternal Life, even more important than my own selfish desires or my own life. And that is what GOD wants of me, to always choose Him above all, for to CHOOSE GOD is to Worship GOD, for to Worship GOD is to Love GOD, and to Love Him above all others is what GOD always wants most from me.

So if I just can’t Commit to or CHOOSE someone I love and I do not want to sacrifice to give them what they want, but only selfishly want what I want, then maybe I do not really love who I think I love, maybe I really have not CHOSEN them and do not love them. And what about GOD, well, think it works the same: if I just can’t Commit to or CHOOSE GOD and I do not want to sacrifice to give GOD what He wants, but only selfishly want what I want, then maybe I do not really love GOD, maybe I really have not CHOSEN GOD as my GOD... Bummer!

In final closing, Love is scary, hard and not always fair… Marriage is scary, hard and not always fair… Commitment is scary, hard and not always fair… Sacrifice is scary, hard and not always fair… And CHOICE, where you only know part of what will be and the rules, well, that is a gamble and risk, and is never easy. When you have doubts or troubles about any of these, turn to GOD… He has CHOSEN to always be Committed to you, He has CHOSEN to be comforting, He has CHOSEN to love you always, He has CHOSEN already to sacrifice for you, He has CHOSEN to always be fair to you, and He has CHOSEN to be with you always and forever... I hope you CHOOSE (and Commit) to be there always for GOD...  Just an Old Man's Musings....

SURPRISE!! This page is not copyrighted.  If you find some words or thoughts that you can use, freely use as you wish, and give credit if you want. We all know where this came from, and it is not me, but GOD, so use what you need, and then pray and thank our GOD. Do not ever thank me, as I am only a channel for our Lord. Think of me as maybe being a very small and feeble beam of light pointing the way towards the Light of Christ. God Bless You All! Last modified: June 21, 2013(AL).